February 13, 2004

Happy Unfortunate Valentine's Day

You haven't properly celebrated V-Day until you've visited the Gallery of Unfortunate Valentine's Day Cards.

This one is my favorite, evoking the specter of human branding, or bestiality. Take your pick.

Maggie and I rarely celebrate the day, which is just an excuse to consume candy and spend money. This year has been the one for practical gifts coinciding with celebrations. In other words, no real surprises on our anniversary. Instead, we bought something together which we both needed (it was furniture).

Celebrate these things automatically and they become very boring. Celebrate them sporadically and the excitement returns.

Disclosure: I did get Maggie flowers this year (there was a slight screw-up with Kabloom, but their customer service has been very responsive). That was nice. But i have a feeling that these symbolic gifts are more important in a competitive circle of friends. If this were the sort of thing that provided fodder for Maggie's group of friends, I could see where not getting flowers would cause distress. There is that awkward moment when the girls are talking about their gifts. So, ultimately, Valentine's Day becomes just another opportunity for social pressure to force you to buy something. Isn't that romantic?

Instead of wishing you all a Happy Valentine's Day tomorrow, I think I'd rather wish that you all to find one substantive thing about yourself that has the potential to make you happy.

Posted by James at February 13, 2004 1:39 PM
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Re: your favorite. For me, this evoked images of G. Gordon Liddy ("The trick is not minding.")

"Nothing quite says 'I love you' like leaving a permanent mark on the skin of your valentine by holding metal over an open flame until it's so hot that it will leave a scar when pressed, hissing, into the flesh."

Posted by: Patti M. at February 13, 2004 3:35 PM

Flowers shouldn't be a competitive thing; that's silly. They also don't have to be given for a reason (flowers given for no particular reason at all are often the most appreciated).

I love flowers and Bob sent an arrangement to me at work. It's a beautiful light green ceramic vase of red roses, red tulips, red Gerber daisies, and hypericum (ornamental St. John's wort).

On the subject of sending flowers, I believe strongly that no one should ever buy roses on Valentine's Day--they're horribly over priced simply because the florists _know_ you're going to buy them, regardless of cost, so they've got you by the short hairs.

Arrangements of different kinds of flowers are my favorite.

Posted by: Patti M. at February 13, 2004 3:46 PM

It's not the flowers, it's the holiday I hink may be competitive for some people. At least, that's the only way I can imagine it being significant. Don't you know who appreciates you without Valentine's day? Of course you do.

Sure, it's nice to receive acknowledgement ANYTIME. Even on Valentine's day.

Maybe I just don' get this holiday thing. If it weren't for the kids, I'm not sure we'd celebrate any holidays. We'd probabl get weird and just have our own.

I prefer the commemoration of significant events. Like if you went on a really cool forest walk with your spouse and you made it into a tradition. That kind of thing blows Valentine's Day out of the water.

Posted by: James at February 13, 2004 5:17 PM

We didn't do anything for V day this year... I'm too sick. :(

Maybe next year...

Posted by: Chuck S. at February 15, 2004 10:34 AM

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