January 12, 2009

Happy Anniversary

Today is my 18th wedding anniversary. It is also my 7th blogging anniversary. I will try to be thoughtful without getting sappy.

In the next 4 years we have 3 "significant" anniversary coincidences. Next year is relatively unremarkable, but 2011 will mark 20 years of marriage. 2012 will mark 10 years of blogging. In 2013 I'll have been blogging for half my married life, which will seem amazing, I'm sure. So, we have all that to look forward to.

Which brings me to mind of something that a close friend once said about reflecting on the past (something people do a lot of at anniversaries and at the beginning of a new year).

He said we shouldn't dwell on our best past days as "good old days." We should always enjoy our present days, and strive to make the future a new time of good days.

Sometimes, it seems like you have reached some peak in the past, and it's all downhill from there. It's not usually worded that way, but this is often how anniversary reflections sound. Wallowing in the past is a phenomenon most noticeable in those high school stars who never seem to let go of high school. But it's also true of married couples who have resigned to the passage of time and have not learned to adapt to the changes that time brings.

Looking at the past, I see some very good days. I also see some pretty horrible days. Nobody knows what the future holds, but judging by the past, it's going to be a mixed bag.

Our future is full of challenges and opportunity. We will rise to meet those challenges as we have in the past. We will make the future days our best days by doing what we can to make today the best it can possibly be.

Most importantly, we'll do it together in a way we couldn't do alone.

Posted by James at January 12, 2009 8:20 AM
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Happy anniversary on both counts! I know you're a terrific family guy (not that Family Guy) and a wonderful blogger too. Enjoy the day!


Posted by: George at January 12, 2009 8:41 AM

Happy anniversary to you, Maggie, and Acesfull.

Posted by: Julie at January 12, 2009 9:01 AM

Happy anniversary James and Maggie! And Aces Full. Love this place.

Oh, and I wouldn't worry about much past 2012. Them Mayans got a whuppin in store for us. ;-)

Posted by: Bull at January 12, 2009 9:56 AM

Happy Anniversary!

Posted by: PJ at January 12, 2009 10:28 AM

Happy Anniversary. It's hard to believe that this is the same day that I escorted Maggie's sister up the icy slope to the church. It's probably easier to imagine from where you are.


Posted by: briwei at January 12, 2009 12:27 PM

Yes - from here it is extremely plausible. Lots of stuff is frozen this year.

Thanks for the wellwishes!

Posted by: James at January 12, 2009 1:16 PM

Ha, ha, Brian, that was fun, wasn't it? What kind of idiot gets married in January in New England? ;-) We have been hammered this winter so far, although not nearly as badly as our friends just a little to the North! I'm ready for Spring!

Posted by: Maggie at January 12, 2009 1:24 PM


Wow! 18 years is a long time, you're lucky she's kept you around ;)

Congrats on the blogging too!

Posted by: Gary LaPointe at January 12, 2009 5:57 PM

Yes, I am lucky.

Posted by: James at January 12, 2009 7:32 PM

Happy anniversary J&M, all the best!

Posted by: Chuck S at January 14, 2009 6:59 PM

Happy aniversary, James and Margeret. You guys have always been a perfectly matched couple. Cheers, and good wishes to you and your daughters!

Rui and Gigi

Posted by: Rui Campos at January 15, 2009 5:00 AM

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